Have you read Suzanne’s blog, The Temptation to Compare? If your chest is tight or your stomach hurts, breathe. Slowly. Breathe again.
Why can we relate to what Suzanne shared? Why does insecurity knock on our door, sometimes loudly and incessantly? Because it’s easy to try to meet our need for security in things, but it never works. Add to that the easy comparisons due to social media and certain TV shows, and we can quickly feel inadequate, less than, unsure, and angry.
Being a mom is not a contest. Neither is being a woman. We shouldn’t be keeping score.
If we try to meet our need for security by making perfect Christmas cookies, we’ll be stressed. Or maybe for you, it’s the outside lights and decorations. Inside your mind and heart, are you competing with your neighbors even though you say you don’t mean to? Or, have you placed your security in your child’s choir performance? Things will never meet our need.
We all have a legitimate need for security. We don’t have a need for perfection. We don’t have a need to be better than anyone. These may be wants that we need to work through. They easily masquerade as needs. We can think we deserve a red-carpet moment. We can wonder why our home is not written up in the local paper or a national magazine. After all, we worked hard to decorate and it’s never looked better. Why didn’t our social media post about our special traditions or our Christmas tree get more likes?
What is our need for security? It’s a need to be emotionally and physically safe and free from danger, fear, and anxiety. We should meet our need in people, not in things. Its defining question is “Who can I trust?” not “What can I trust?”
People can try to meet the need, but even we’re not 100% reliable or trustworthy. We’re all imperfect.
When we are trustworthy, we can be a source of security for our children and others. Do we tell the truth, apologize when appropriate, follow through, prioritize our spouse and children, and remember past conversations to ask follow-up questions? What would you add to this list of behaviors associated with trustworthiness and security?
Being able to trust us allows them to be secure, joyful, and content. That’s what you want for them this month, right? And you want to be secure, joyful, and content, too. Our choices and behaviors make the difference.
If things can’t make us secure and people disappoint us, what’s left? No, who’s left?
Jesus came to earth to be our ultimate security when He went to the cross and bore our sin upon Himself. We can trust Him for so much more. The triune God is the best answer to the question “Who can I trust?” I hope you know He is trustworthy. For example, He is on our side, He tells the truth, He is consistent, He knows us, He is available, and He responds to us with grace, mercy, and truth.
We are deeply and unconditionally loved. Through God’s relevant, accurate, always true Word, we are instructed. It is the instruction manual and life’s play book you might be looking for. Through faith in God and trusting Jesus as our sacrifice, we are saved and totally forgiven. That’s security!
Jesus didn’t stay a baby. This month, let’s celebrate that. We can trust God to meet our need for security. Will we? Do we?